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And please, be kind to one another.
Well, I certainly can’t speak for all therapists, but in my own experience there are absolutely therapists who tear up—or even openly cry—with a client. And I don’t think it speaks to poor boundaries at all, but rather to a therapist’s openness to what’s happening in the room. If you’re a psychodynamically-oriented therapist, working with a client over a long period time, you’re simply going to feel for them at times, whether in their struggles or in their joy. I don’t think it’s appropriate to breakdown and weep as a therapist, but I think tears on the therapist’s part can actually be a fairly powerful thing in the right context, and add to, rather than detract from, the therapeutic relationship.
And it turns out that, at least according to the most recent study done on the topic, 72% of therapists, regardless of gender, reported crying in session at some time in their career (crying here, again, meaning tearing up a bit, not sobbing hysterically) with “older, more experienced therapists and those with a psychodynamic approach tending to cry more”.
The article also goes onto note that:
"[therapists] reported they experienced their last in-session cry due to sadness (75%), “feeling touched” (63%), warmth (33%), gratitude (15%) and joy (12%). According to the researchers these findings challenge the idea that therapists cry “due to the therapist being overwhelmed by intense negative emotions that arise in therapy, and instead signals a moment of potentially positive emotional connection, even if amid painful negative affect.”