Let’s face it. We’re undone by each other. And if we’re not, we’re missing...– Judith Butler, Precarious Life: The Powers of Mourning and Violence
We need to accept our age. We need to accept many physical and mental illnesses...– Ryan Howes, clinical psychologist
A Marriage Counselor Tries to Heckle at a Knicks... →
(by Jesse Eisenberg, 4/25/13) Let’s go Knicks! But let’s also recognize the positive attributes of the opposing team! Come on, Knicks! But please note that I’m supporting the Knicks because I live in the same city as the team’s arena, which is a distinction as arbitrary as what players are assigned to what team! That is, I could just as easily be supporting the other team were I to live in...
How Therapy Can Help in the Golden Years (New York... →
Marvin Tolkin was 83 when he decided that the unexamined life wasn’t worth living. Until then, it had never occurred to him that there might be emotional “issues” he wanted to explore with a counselor. “I don’t think I ever needed therapy,” said Mr. Tolkin, a retired manufacturer of women’s undergarments who lives in Manhattan and Hewlett Harbor, N.Y. Though he wasn’t clinically depressed, Mr....
All men should strive to learn before they die, what they are running from, and...– James Thurber
Tylenol Found To Reduce Anxiety Over 'Existential... →
ecantwell: Members of the Tylenol groups reported feeling less upset following conversations about death and other existential topics. “Nobody has shown this before, and we are surprised that the effect emerged so robustly,” said lead researcher Daniel Randles, “that a drug meant primarily to alleviate headaches also prevents people from being bothered all that much by thinking about death....
To avoid disillusionment with human nature, we must first give up our illusions...– Abraham Maslow
Gracious acceptance is an art - an art which most never bother to cultivate. We...– Alexander McCall Smith
We are tyrannized by our blind spots, and by whatever it is about ourselves that...– Adam Phillips, Going Sane: Maps of Happiness
Infants React to Angry Voices Even When Asleep... →
via Psych Central: New research suggests that babies’ brains can process emotional tones of voice, a capability that could potentially lead to problems in dealing with stress and emotions. Researchers from the University of Oregon found that infants respond to angry tone of voice, even when they’re asleep. Babies’ brains are very malleable, allowing them to develop in response to the...
Practice giving things away, not just things you don’t care about, but...– Robert A.F. Thurman
felistella asked: Re: Ask Me Friday. I am about to go back to school to become a psychotherapist, myself, and am dying to get started on reading some literature. Please direct me to what you recommend as seminal/classic/important works - where to begin? Where to go? I'd love any recommendations. Thanks!
corgiceps asked: Do you have any advice for someone considering therapy/counseling as a career? I don't want to go to school forever but if it's absolutely necessary I'm open to it. Is there anything I should know beforehand?
We are imperfect mortal beings, aware of that mortality even as we push it away,...– Joan Didion, The Year of Magical Thinking (via awritersruminations)
New Moms Experience More Obsessive Compulsive... →
via Psych Central: New mothers apparently have a much higher rate of obsessive-compulsive symptoms than the general population, according to new research. The study from researchers at Northwestern Medicine found that 11 percent of postpartum women experience significant obsessive-compulsive symptoms compared to just 2 to 3 percent in the general population. The symptoms, which include fear of...
This uniqueness and singleness which distinguishes each individual and gives a...– Viktor Frankel
substantia-nigra asked: General thoughts on psychoanalysis vs cbt vs rebt vs humanistic approach ?
Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.– Pema Chodron
The Debt: When terrible, abusive parents come... →
by Emily Joffe What do we owe our tormentors? It’s a question that haunts those who had childhoods marked by years of neglect and deprivation, or of psychological, physical, and sexual abuse at the hands of one or both parents. Despite this terrible beginning, many people make it out successfully and go on to build satisfying lives. Now their mother or father is old, maybe ailing, possibly...
Why You Never Truly Leave High School: New science... →
Sarah and Jim, 1988 & 2011. For the past three years, Argentine photographer Irina Werning has been staging reenactments of old snapshots. The project, “Back to the Future,” includes 270 photographs made in 29 countries. by Jennifer Senior “…Not everyone feels the sustained, melancholic presence of a high-school shadow self. There are some people who simply put in their four...
Iain McGilchrist on the limits of neuroscience →
ecantwell: “It’s a mistake to think that this kind of thing will tell you more about what a human being is. There was a huge amount of excitement a few years ago when somebody found what they called the love circuit, what lights up when you fall in love. Well, did you expect your brain to be a virgin when you fell in love? Of course, something in your brain is going to light up....
Why Can Some Kids Handle Pressure While Others... →
excerpt: Never before has the pressure to perform on high-stakes tests been so intense or meant so much for a child’s academic future. As more school districts strive for accountability, standardized tests have proliferated. The pressure to do well on achievement tests for college is filtering its way down to lower grades, so that even third graders feel as if they are on trial. Students get the...
There is More to Life Than Being Happy (The... →
excerpt: “It is the very pursuit of happiness,” Viktor Frankl knew, “that thwarts happiness.” This is why some researchers are cautioning against the pursuit of mere happiness. In a new study, which will be published this year in a forthcoming issue of the Journal of Positive Psychology, psychological scientists asked nearly 400 Americans aged 18 to 78 whether they...
50 Common Cognitive Distortions (Psychology Today) →
Sorrow comes in great waves…but rolls over us, and though it may almost...– Henry James
I overcame myself, the sufferer; I carried my own ashes to the mountains; I...– Friedrich Nietzsche
The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.– Pema Chodron
Adam Lanza, Asperger’s and a Misleading Connection... →
Excerpt: This subject is important to many of those whose lives are affected by Asperger’s or other forms of Autism Spectrum Disorder. They are troubled and angered by how the topic has been treated in The Times and other news organizations over the past several days. Joe McGinniss, the well-known author and the father of a son who has Asperger’s, is among the many who wrote to me. “The...
I am Schizophrenic. Understanding Mental Illness...
Editor’s Note: I received the following from a reader earlier today, asking if I would be willing to post his essay on this site, which I am more than willing to do. If you would like to contact the author personally, you can find his site here. ——————— I am schizophrenic. Or rather, I have schizophrenia. I’ve been told many times by mental health...
The Connecticut School Shooting: How to Help... →
Like all of you, I am deeply shocked and saddened by today’s unimaginably horrific events in Connecticut. But as a parent, I also realize we must talk to our children tonight about this tragedy, and must do so in an appropriate and supportive way. With that in mind, here’s a very informative and useful guide for parents on how to talk to their kids about tragedy and loss. May peace be...
Recalibratring Therapy for Our Wired World (New... →
by Dr. Richard Friedman Speed, instant gratification, accessibility — these are a few of the appealing hallmarks of digital technology. It’s no coincidence that we love our smart wireless devices: Humans are a notoriously impatient species, born with a preference for immediate rewards. But the virtues of the digital age are not always aligned with those of psychotherapy. It takes time to...
The wish to be understood may be our most vengeful demand, may be the way we...– Adam Phillips, Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life
The Best Psychology Books of 2012 (The Guardian) →
From Adam Phillips to Steven Pinker, experts in several fields have pushed the boundaries in our understanding of the mind…
That was a most curious and interesting remark you made about feeling,...– Ted Hughes, in a letter to his 24 year old son
Social Exclusion Leads to Cooperation (Science... →
ScienceDaily (Dec. 4, 2012) — Social exclusion as a punishment strategy helps explain the evolution of cooperation, according to new IIASA research. The new study, by IIASA Evolution and Ecology Program postdoctoral fellow Tatsuya Sasaki, provides a simple new model that ties punishment by social exclusion to the benefits for the punisher. It may help explain how social exclusion arose in...
What Brand is Your Therapist? (New York Times) →
Psychotherapy’s Image Problem Pushes Some Therapist to Become ‘Brands’ by Lori Gottlieb In the summer of 2011, after I completed six years of graduate school and internship training and was about to start my psychotherapy practice, I sat down with my clinical supervisor in the Los Angeles office we’d be sharing. It had been a rigorous six years, transitioning from my role as...
If you think you’re enlightened, go spend a week with your family.– Ram Dass I tend to post this every year around this time, because I think this is exactly the time of year that most of us need to hear it. Home tends to humble and frustrate us like no other place on earth, reminding us that no matter how much we accomplish in this life, no matter how...